I've actually been meaning to post this for awhile now but kept forgetting to sit down and do it!!
Anyhoo... I don't consider myself to be an overly judgmental person. I'm talking day-to-day life and parenthood type things. You are going to do things how you want and your going to raise your child how you want. To be honest, that's how it should be!! Yes, I'm going to offer my own tid-bits on certain things but I only offer out of wanting to help. Lets face it, all mom's loving handing out free advice!!
I am not judging you on how you raise your kids. If you chose not to breastfeed, that's fine. Your choosing cloth diapers, hey power to you!! Are you mentally prepared for the clean up?? Your letting your kid sit in front of a TV for 5 hours a day, that's your decision; I highly disapprove but I'm not going to belittle you for it.
I let my experiences out in hopes of helping others, is someone going to pass judgment on me? Probably... and that's fine. **BUT** If you are willing to dish out judgments on other people... you had better be willing to accept that someone is going to pass judgment on YOU!! Just because you put yourself on a platform of self indulgence doesn't excuse the hypocrisy of your actions and words.
This post isn't being directed at any particular person, frankly, there are too many people I know that think their choices are far more superior and therefore have a "higher than thou" attitude. They think they can look down on everyone who didnt make the same choices and to be honest, I'm pretty fed up. You've breastfed for an entire year, you've fed your baby only organic food that you grew yourself, your chose cloth diapers... etc. etc... I get it, your on a high horse of "I'm better than you"
I wasnt able to breast feed... I had the few days of colostrum and after a month of trying, I just couldnt produce enough. Yes I tried pretty much everything to help... So dont you dare look down on me... I'm happy for you. I truly am!! But there is no need for your attitude.
As for the organic complex... ya I admit I was on that kinda kick when my daughter was on baby food. I bought organic Gerber. So what... I never rubbed it in your face, I only asked that family would try to stick to the same diet. (correct me if i'm wrong but) as my memory serves, I never through a fit if it wasnt organic. I wanted to do best for my girl but I tried to do it without being smug!
You CAN go the natural route WITHOUT being a pompous smug-ass!!
Get off your high horse... PLEASE we are pretty fed up with it!
On a final note, at the end of the day, it doesnt matter if its a cloth diaper or disposable... your still elbow deep in baby poop!
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Thursday, August 25, 2011
hallelujah
I've shared this on my facebook but I could not resist sharing here as well... Not to mention it will be easier to find on here if I ever need a quick link for it...
I honestly hope no one would take offense to this video, I dont really see how you could... I wish I could have found this exact group with the full intro about how this is homage to the silent monks of (somewhere very foreign and remote).
Hope you all enjoy
I honestly hope no one would take offense to this video, I dont really see how you could... I wish I could have found this exact group with the full intro about how this is homage to the silent monks of (somewhere very foreign and remote).
Hope you all enjoy
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
ketchup
haha play on words make me laugh...
anyway. I've decided I need to carry a small notebook with me from now on. The past few days I have thought of things I want to blog about but as soon as I get home I completely forget what I want to talk about.
*I love my second job. It's honestly something I see myself doing for the rest of my life. Not at the same shop mind you, but the fact that its at a Bakery and I get to decorate cakes and make bread, its a dream come true. I have so many ideas for amazing cakes that I want to create!! I have a sketch book that Ive been using strictly for cake ideas. I'm probably going to have it with me at work since we have clients who are looking for something unique. Hopefully soon my boss is going to teach me to use fondant. I have never used it before but he thinks it could really accelerate out cake sales. I totally agree!! Plus, its easy to paint on fondant rather than just "trying" to create something with icing and spatulas... it can be a pain...
*On the subject of cakes.......My daughter's birthday isnt for another 5 months but today I started looking at ideas for cakes and party themes. Originally I was thinking about doing a pirate theme. The invitations were going to be on paper designed to look like very old treasure maps and sent in a bottle. The party was going to have a treasure hunt with a huge chest filled with pirate themed toys and goodie bags and what not. Then I realized she isnt quit old enough to truly understand the concept of a treasure hunt... So my husband and I have decided to go with a safari theme; not the super cheesy baby safari thing but a bit more age appropriate. I'm ordering the supplies needed to do the cake myself and the invites are going to be on jungle tree leaf stationary.
* In response to my previous post, I did FINALLY express my concerns to Dad. I told him I was worried about the fact she already lies and manipulates to get what she wants and many of the behavioral issues I mentioned on the last post. -----------Before I continue, I had taken the notion that dad was either in complete and total denial or he knew and just refused to accept it and preferred to stay blind to the facts.---------- Dad's response was "Ya...I know..." *Jaw invisibly drops* As politely as could possibly be said, I basically said "well then you should tell her mom that your keeping with the custody agreement and she can just deal with it!!"
Does this mean things will actually change?? I kinda doubt it but we shall see...
And Kate, we have had many discussions behind closed doors that she will probably end up as a pregnant teen due to her mothers lack of teaching M any better. When I mentioned the whole teen pregnancy thing, dad's response was simply "well we just wont let that ever happen". again... we shall see.
*So very excited about the amazingly cute outfit that finally came in the mail for my daughter. A beautiful deep purple sweater dress, grey leggings, and matching purple and grey shoes. I will post pics tomorrow (I'm currently too lazy to track down my camera just for one pic)
I guess that's about it for tonight. Waking up at 330 and working 2 jobs makes one not want to stay up past 8...
til anon
anyway. I've decided I need to carry a small notebook with me from now on. The past few days I have thought of things I want to blog about but as soon as I get home I completely forget what I want to talk about.
*I love my second job. It's honestly something I see myself doing for the rest of my life. Not at the same shop mind you, but the fact that its at a Bakery and I get to decorate cakes and make bread, its a dream come true. I have so many ideas for amazing cakes that I want to create!! I have a sketch book that Ive been using strictly for cake ideas. I'm probably going to have it with me at work since we have clients who are looking for something unique. Hopefully soon my boss is going to teach me to use fondant. I have never used it before but he thinks it could really accelerate out cake sales. I totally agree!! Plus, its easy to paint on fondant rather than just "trying" to create something with icing and spatulas... it can be a pain...
*On the subject of cakes.......My daughter's birthday isnt for another 5 months but today I started looking at ideas for cakes and party themes. Originally I was thinking about doing a pirate theme. The invitations were going to be on paper designed to look like very old treasure maps and sent in a bottle. The party was going to have a treasure hunt with a huge chest filled with pirate themed toys and goodie bags and what not. Then I realized she isnt quit old enough to truly understand the concept of a treasure hunt... So my husband and I have decided to go with a safari theme; not the super cheesy baby safari thing but a bit more age appropriate. I'm ordering the supplies needed to do the cake myself and the invites are going to be on jungle tree leaf stationary.
* In response to my previous post, I did FINALLY express my concerns to Dad. I told him I was worried about the fact she already lies and manipulates to get what she wants and many of the behavioral issues I mentioned on the last post. -----------Before I continue, I had taken the notion that dad was either in complete and total denial or he knew and just refused to accept it and preferred to stay blind to the facts.---------- Dad's response was "Ya...I know..." *Jaw invisibly drops* As politely as could possibly be said, I basically said "well then you should tell her mom that your keeping with the custody agreement and she can just deal with it!!"
Does this mean things will actually change?? I kinda doubt it but we shall see...
And Kate, we have had many discussions behind closed doors that she will probably end up as a pregnant teen due to her mothers lack of teaching M any better. When I mentioned the whole teen pregnancy thing, dad's response was simply "well we just wont let that ever happen". again... we shall see.
*So very excited about the amazingly cute outfit that finally came in the mail for my daughter. A beautiful deep purple sweater dress, grey leggings, and matching purple and grey shoes. I will post pics tomorrow (I'm currently too lazy to track down my camera just for one pic)
I guess that's about it for tonight. Waking up at 330 and working 2 jobs makes one not want to stay up past 8...
til anon
Thursday, August 18, 2011
wish i could disown you
I am so tired of parents refusing to actually be a parent!!! Do people not understand just how bad things are going to turn out?? have you seen the teenage girls who bitch until they get what they want? Well, imagine that but about 20 times worse with even less manners and you have my annoying ass half sister. I hate admitting it but I truly do not like her. I have to love her but there are seriously days where I cant even do that. You may think, oh its just sibling rivalry. um... she's 8 and I'm 26... there is NO rivalry.
Why is she so bad in my eyes?? Well, it's not necessarily all her, it's mostly the parents. We share the same father and he is very laid back in his approach to parenting. Even when I was a kid he kinda did his own thing and expected the me to do my own thing with out making too much noise or a mess.... Its almost worse with Micayla. Here is the typical interaction... Dad sits down to watch tv and micayla goes to the other room and does whatever she wants... Thats the whole night....
Then there is dinner. Oh dear god is this a fuckin mess!! There are 3 things she will eat. Cheese Pizza, cereal, and ice cream. occasionally she will eat mac and cheese but if its too creamy, its too gross...
Tonight I made pizza. A simple pepperoni cause thats all we had... I had mine and sat down to relax after putting my daughter to bed. The brat walks in and refuses to eat the pizza because its not cheese. Dad tells her to take them off and its the exact same as eating cheese. She starts to cry... (are you fuckin kidding me, crying over damn pizza) so dad bitches about it and gets a bowl of cereal to shut her up.
STOP PROMOTING THE BEHAVIOR!!!!! This is basically the outcome of every situation where its something she doesnt like. "I dont like it" *major cry* dad gives her cereal... Be a damn parent and grow a pair!! Basically my dad refuses to stand up to the bad behavior and just gives in to the demands.
Then there is her mom. Does everything to be the "best friend" instead of being an actual parent. For crying out loud she gave her 8 year daughter a facebook account... WTF is wrong with her!!!!! I have picked micayla up from school on many occasions wearing extremely inappropriate clothing, whether its too short, too see through (ya see through), or too big (the top of the shirt was below her tata's) It seriously makes me want to punch a bitch. She is 8 years old and still doesnt know how to put away her dirty dishes... actually she doesnt know how to do anything for herself. Someone has to get her whatever it is she wants to eat or drink (and she never says please or thank you) she cant get her own clothes (which honestly, she cant pick matching clothes anyway) she is always interrupting and no matter what the conversation is, she will just start talking about herself.
I remember taking her to the mall when Adam and I were trying to pick out wedding rings. We were talking to the sales rep when she pipes in "I had to clean yellow stuff out of my ears this morning" No body wants to know this!!! She has never been taught what is appropriate!!
At 7 she would still pull her dresses up over her underwear and walk around like it was no big deal. Sit with her legs spread to show the whole world what she was wearing. Not just at home either.... she would constantly do this when in public.
I know this is a lot of bitching and it may seem over exaggerate but I assure you I'm not... I cant stand her and I cant stand the lack of parenting. I hate admitting that I cant wait to get out of here and I will never look back. I cant wait to get my daughter away from this complete disaster.
Why is she so bad in my eyes?? Well, it's not necessarily all her, it's mostly the parents. We share the same father and he is very laid back in his approach to parenting. Even when I was a kid he kinda did his own thing and expected the me to do my own thing with out making too much noise or a mess.... Its almost worse with Micayla. Here is the typical interaction... Dad sits down to watch tv and micayla goes to the other room and does whatever she wants... Thats the whole night....
Then there is dinner. Oh dear god is this a fuckin mess!! There are 3 things she will eat. Cheese Pizza, cereal, and ice cream. occasionally she will eat mac and cheese but if its too creamy, its too gross...
Tonight I made pizza. A simple pepperoni cause thats all we had... I had mine and sat down to relax after putting my daughter to bed. The brat walks in and refuses to eat the pizza because its not cheese. Dad tells her to take them off and its the exact same as eating cheese. She starts to cry... (are you fuckin kidding me, crying over damn pizza) so dad bitches about it and gets a bowl of cereal to shut her up.
STOP PROMOTING THE BEHAVIOR!!!!! This is basically the outcome of every situation where its something she doesnt like. "I dont like it" *major cry* dad gives her cereal... Be a damn parent and grow a pair!! Basically my dad refuses to stand up to the bad behavior and just gives in to the demands.
Then there is her mom. Does everything to be the "best friend" instead of being an actual parent. For crying out loud she gave her 8 year daughter a facebook account... WTF is wrong with her!!!!! I have picked micayla up from school on many occasions wearing extremely inappropriate clothing, whether its too short, too see through (ya see through), or too big (the top of the shirt was below her tata's) It seriously makes me want to punch a bitch. She is 8 years old and still doesnt know how to put away her dirty dishes... actually she doesnt know how to do anything for herself. Someone has to get her whatever it is she wants to eat or drink (and she never says please or thank you) she cant get her own clothes (which honestly, she cant pick matching clothes anyway) she is always interrupting and no matter what the conversation is, she will just start talking about herself.
I remember taking her to the mall when Adam and I were trying to pick out wedding rings. We were talking to the sales rep when she pipes in "I had to clean yellow stuff out of my ears this morning" No body wants to know this!!! She has never been taught what is appropriate!!
At 7 she would still pull her dresses up over her underwear and walk around like it was no big deal. Sit with her legs spread to show the whole world what she was wearing. Not just at home either.... she would constantly do this when in public.
I know this is a lot of bitching and it may seem over exaggerate but I assure you I'm not... I cant stand her and I cant stand the lack of parenting. I hate admitting that I cant wait to get out of here and I will never look back. I cant wait to get my daughter away from this complete disaster.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
*collapse*
Lets just say its been a crazy trip of a week!!!
My last post was about making cakes for my dad's birthday. Well, I have pics of 2.
Extremely simple cake. Am I proud of this one??
well no... It's just too simple for my personal taste. But at least it looks like it could have come from a bakery...
Top view of cake 2. I really didnt plan it our very well so its not symmetrical (which is seriously driving me crazy)
side view of 2nd cake. I havent done basket weave in a couple years so its not perfect, but these cakes were more practice than anything else. I mean yes, I would have loved for them to have been perfect but eh... It's not like the men around here really pay that close of attention lol.
FridayI went to the new Bakery and Bistro that opened in town. Been in there a couple times, but really wanted some cookies!! Anyway, the boss is actually someone I sort of worked for when I was at Summer Fresh. He knew I could decorate cakes so we started talking about if he was looking for workers. Lucky for me, he was!! He asked me to drop by on Saturday with a Resume and we could do an interview. Well, it honestly wasnt an interview. It was a "lets get you a schedule!"
I'm so excited about working there. Started on Monday. 5 am to 230pm. It was an insane day but I wouldnt change it for anything. I can honestly say my job is doing something I love!! Truth is, very few people can say that...
This morning I worked 5am to 845 and then headed to my second job at my dad's shop. Before opening, I swept the eating area and all I could do was smile the entire time. I could truely see myself owning my own bakery someday!
The reason for the title.......you try waking up at 345 in the morning, work a 9 and half hour shift with no lunch, try to take care of a 2 year old and then follow it with another 345 wake up for job one and then head to job 2 til 430. Its exhausting!!
But again, I absolutely love what I'm doing and I look forward to posting cakes in the future.
Til anon
My last post was about making cakes for my dad's birthday. Well, I have pics of 2.
well no... It's just too simple for my personal taste. But at least it looks like it could have come from a bakery...
FridayI went to the new Bakery and Bistro that opened in town. Been in there a couple times, but really wanted some cookies!! Anyway, the boss is actually someone I sort of worked for when I was at Summer Fresh. He knew I could decorate cakes so we started talking about if he was looking for workers. Lucky for me, he was!! He asked me to drop by on Saturday with a Resume and we could do an interview. Well, it honestly wasnt an interview. It was a "lets get you a schedule!"
I'm so excited about working there. Started on Monday. 5 am to 230pm. It was an insane day but I wouldnt change it for anything. I can honestly say my job is doing something I love!! Truth is, very few people can say that...
This morning I worked 5am to 845 and then headed to my second job at my dad's shop. Before opening, I swept the eating area and all I could do was smile the entire time. I could truely see myself owning my own bakery someday!
The reason for the title.......you try waking up at 345 in the morning, work a 9 and half hour shift with no lunch, try to take care of a 2 year old and then follow it with another 345 wake up for job one and then head to job 2 til 430. Its exhausting!!
But again, I absolutely love what I'm doing and I look forward to posting cakes in the future.
Til anon
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Tomorrow should be interesting...
What in the world do get your own father for his birthday?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
I know he likes John Wayna, fathers day took care of that though... got him the whole collection of his movies...
He likes space documentaries and such, but he already owns just about every one of them...
LOOOVES nascar... already owns every movie/documentary made about the greatest driver ever (earnhart senior duh!)
So I really have no idea what to get him...
I cant even do a nice dinner for him... his idea of a nice birthday dinner is hamburger helper. I honestly cant remember the last time i made that stuff. Guess I will have to tomorrow...
Speaking of tomorrow, since its my Daddy's birthday (yes, a 26 year old can still say Daddy!!) I will be making cakes from scratch. ahh! you noticed the plural on that. yes cakeS. 4 to be exact. why so many?? In a previous post I mentioned I am building a professional portfolio of my cake work and a birthday gives me the perfect excuse to go a lil crazy! I know one will be blue and white, I'm thinking about making a second one to Nascar-ish, one will be for "Pe-Pa" as he is so affectionately known, and I'm not to sure about the last. I'm thinking about making it a basket weave for the simple reason of needing to practice!
I very much look forward to tomorrow and be busy in the kitchen. The key is going to be baking the cakes while lil girl eats breakfast and decorating while she is taking a nap!! I honestly think that is going to be the only way I manage to pull this off.
And of course I will post pics tomorrow of all the wonders that shall come from my kitchen!
"A messy kitchen is a happy kitchen, and this kitchen is delirious!"
til anon
I know he likes John Wayna, fathers day took care of that though... got him the whole collection of his movies...
He likes space documentaries and such, but he already owns just about every one of them...
LOOOVES nascar... already owns every movie/documentary made about the greatest driver ever (earnhart senior duh!)
So I really have no idea what to get him...
I cant even do a nice dinner for him... his idea of a nice birthday dinner is hamburger helper. I honestly cant remember the last time i made that stuff. Guess I will have to tomorrow...
Speaking of tomorrow, since its my Daddy's birthday (yes, a 26 year old can still say Daddy!!) I will be making cakes from scratch. ahh! you noticed the plural on that. yes cakeS. 4 to be exact. why so many?? In a previous post I mentioned I am building a professional portfolio of my cake work and a birthday gives me the perfect excuse to go a lil crazy! I know one will be blue and white, I'm thinking about making a second one to Nascar-ish, one will be for "Pe-Pa" as he is so affectionately known, and I'm not to sure about the last. I'm thinking about making it a basket weave for the simple reason of needing to practice!
I very much look forward to tomorrow and be busy in the kitchen. The key is going to be baking the cakes while lil girl eats breakfast and decorating while she is taking a nap!! I honestly think that is going to be the only way I manage to pull this off.
And of course I will post pics tomorrow of all the wonders that shall come from my kitchen!
"A messy kitchen is a happy kitchen, and this kitchen is delirious!"
til anon
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Clothes shopping please!!
Truth is, its still half a year before my daughter will even need new clothes. Most of her pants will carry her over the next year and her shorts will definitely still work next summer!! I'm itching to go clothes shopping!! The problem with that is I am very limited!!
I have Wal-Mart, Target, Carters, and Osh Kosh. That's really it!! I hardly find anything at wal mart other than a few "daycare" clothes. Target just isnt my style and frankly, ends up looking kinda weird on her. Carters... I USED to like them. I dont know what happened to fashion this last year but its honestly been crap. Not to mention the fact that for some reason they only 2 different types of jeans... I mean seriously??? Osh Kosh is ok I guess but there are hardly any options...
Springfield is an hour away and I just cant make that drive as often as I like but there are wonderful options there. JCPenny happens to be one of my favorite places for clothes for my daughter. So many wonderful options as well as very beautiful dresses...
I get distracted too easily when trying online shopping, but im willing to give it a try. So I'm here reaching out for advice. Where are some good online stores for infant and toddler clothing??? --yes infant because I have to shop for a couple baby showers :)
Oh and more specifically, I'm looking for dresses, along the line of "Sunday best" dresses.
I have Wal-Mart, Target, Carters, and Osh Kosh. That's really it!! I hardly find anything at wal mart other than a few "daycare" clothes. Target just isnt my style and frankly, ends up looking kinda weird on her. Carters... I USED to like them. I dont know what happened to fashion this last year but its honestly been crap. Not to mention the fact that for some reason they only 2 different types of jeans... I mean seriously??? Osh Kosh is ok I guess but there are hardly any options...
Springfield is an hour away and I just cant make that drive as often as I like but there are wonderful options there. JCPenny happens to be one of my favorite places for clothes for my daughter. So many wonderful options as well as very beautiful dresses...
I get distracted too easily when trying online shopping, but im willing to give it a try. So I'm here reaching out for advice. Where are some good online stores for infant and toddler clothing??? --yes infant because I have to shop for a couple baby showers :)
Oh and more specifically, I'm looking for dresses, along the line of "Sunday best" dresses.
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